… on definitive donuts and a bucket designed for happiness

At the end of the day… or week… or decade…  the reality of a rich, full life results, sometimes, in feeling a little poorer.  Grief over losing someone dear calls into question everything we allow into our lives — like a balance sheet of pros and cons or a record of wins and losses.  Sadness,…

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…on parking parallel in a perpendicular world

For some reason, I always excelled at parallel parking.  Why, I am not sure.  I grew up on a farm where we pulled our cars across the barnyard to get in or out of the driveway.  I lived in a small town where the number of spots around the town square probably equaled the number…

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…on the telling of truths in these telling times  

“Cleaning your house while your kids are still growing is like shoveling the walk before it stops snowing.”  Phyllis Diller The truth is, being a mother is a lot of work.  At the height of my mothering of 4 children at home I cleaned.  Every day.  I did 4 loads of laundry.  Every day.  I…

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…on how if you can’t even, cant

I can’t even…. I hear these words often from fellow mothers when looking at pictures of their children that pop up on Facebook’s time hop.  Like, “I can’t even deal with how cute she was” or “I can’t even believe how much he has grown”.  So when unpacking a box of Christmas things from years…

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…on shelving the elfing expectations

And then she did the most miraculous, unexpected thing… she asked if, instead of relegating Daisy to a shelf as christmas decor, she took over and did it for me.  She wanted to give back the joy of waking every morning to a new experience. A new joy.  A new play on an old ploy for goodness as a guide for behavior.  

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…on how the old me knew me

A couple of months ago, I was headed to Denver to participate in my third women’s empowerment conference, called Emerging Women Live, and this year I needed a photo of myself.  While I had flexed my event management muscles as a part of the volunteer staff the prior two years, this year was going to…

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…on what made today “the” day

  At a little after 9 on the evening of October 23, 1989 I thought it was too late to call my dad.  I had just gotten off the phone with my sister in Arizona — I had called to tell her I was pregnant.  It was my first and I had just been to…

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…on you, and me, too

  “Men don’t make passes at girls who wear glasses.”   I don’t know who said that the first time and why it stuck but if that was the case, every woman I know would wear glasses, ALL THE TIME, to simply have a say-so about their bodies. Because a say-so doesn’t just mean “no”,…

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…on rising to the occasion, not the bait

Last night I attended a hot-air balloon festival with my 10 year old daughter and some friends.  It was a beautiful, balmy early-September-in-Indiana evening.  You could say it was perfect.  We had taken camp chairs and our cameras (my daughter is a budding photographer) and set up a spot near the end of the field…

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…on geese, ganders and leadership through followship

“What’s good for the goose is good for the gander”. This phrase has been going through my head a great deal recently as there are two small lakes in front of my home.  Filled.  With Geese.  Their migrational pattern has landed them, literally, in my front yard and I have begun watching them, intently, because…

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